Many of you may know Lorelei, know of her, read about here, or had a chance to meet her at one of the events she frequents. I have known Lorelei for quite a long time. I helped her come out and transition back when she was playing the game of denial that many transpeople play.... Continue Reading →
Transcending Boundaries Conference — this weekend in Worcester, MA
I'm wicked excited to be a part of Transcending Boundaries. I am heading to Worcester MA this weekend to present my research and perform a show on the same topic, Gender Variant Language! The show is Friday night and is boringly named "TBC Primer" for gawd only knows what reason. I guess the show is... Continue Reading →
Santa Barbara Wednesday
I'll be in Santa Barbara Wednesday April 28th to give a lecture on kinky sex at the LGBTQQIIK & GQ conference at UCSB. I'm wildly excited about the event. See you in Santa Barbara!
The Postmodern Intersection of Lesbian and Transgender Politics
INTRODUCTION TO THE PROBLEM There is little awareness in the mainstream regarding trans-issues. One of the major issues surrounding the lack of awareness is the issue of what to call transgender people. The problem is that we lack language patterns and terminology to define and discuss gender variant folks. The structure of the English language... Continue Reading →
Coming Out
I generally think that coming out is a bad idea. Anytime you have to articulate your identity you are giving credence to the ideology of heteronormative behavior. When was the last time someone came out to you as straight? Coming out presupposes a world of coerced conformity. A world where nuclear, heterosexual, two person, monogamous... Continue Reading →
Sexual Anomie
The forced heteronormative expectations that we see in society foments in sexual culture, or rather in the void that represents sexual culture to us in the states. We have a culture of silence, a culture that suggests that any sex is dangerous sex. This anti-sex doctrine is being beaten into our youth through abstinence education... Continue Reading →
Queer Advocates in Public Schools?
I’m angry. I’m angry at a system that is designed to entrap it’s citizens, to coerce conformity, and to expect heteronormative behavior without questioning the underlying presuppositions of this one-sided way of life. Last week a young person came into my life needing help. I made phone calls to the father of this young person. ... Continue Reading →
Thanksgiving is when you find out what your family is made of
The night before thanksgiving I was settling down for a bottle of wine and 30 library books when the phone rang. It was a young relative in tears. Seems this person was chased out by zirs father in a tirade of bigoted, homophobic slander. I drove to the suburbs to rescue this teen, certain that... Continue Reading →
The Business of Professional Domination
I am teaching The Business of Professional Domination at Dungeon Servitius in downtown San Diego Saturday September 19th at 6:00 PM. A party follows. It’s just ten bucks to get so come. This is one of my favorite workshops. I love to teach business, whip out my graphs, stats, and show off my way too... Continue Reading →
The LGBTQ Western Regional Conference
I went to Santa Barbara to speak about my research. I gave two presentations. Gender Variant Neologisms and SM 101. Neologisms are new words. The pictures show an adventure that took place on Sunday during SM 101. After the workshop I was asked to demo some of the toys and techniques I was discussing. As... Continue Reading →
A Funny Dominatrix 