Pink was visually intimidating. She was big and mean looking. Her septum was pierced. She looked like a bull. She was wide and had a strong walk and a stance like a linebacker. She kept her hair buzz cut short. People would often mistake Pink for a man. Common perceptions of gender are limited to … Continue reading I had a lover, her name was Pink.
I'm wicked excited to be a part of Transcending Boundaries. I am heading to Worcester MA this weekend to present my research and perform a show on the same topic, Gender Variant Language! The show is Friday night and is boringly named "TBC Primer" for gawd only knows what reason. I guess the show is … Continue reading Transcending Boundaries Conference — this weekend in Worcester, MA
I'll be in Santa Barbara Wednesday April 28th to give a lecture on kinky sex at the LGBTQQIIK & GQ conference at UCSB. I'm wildly excited about the event. See you in Santa Barbara!
Is it wrong to sleep with the mechanic to get my car fixed? I didn’t think so either, that was until I realized that I’m not straight and he’s not kinky. Also, when he got his dick out I almost laughed myself into an involuntary golden shower! Is the car fixed? Yes and no. The … Continue reading Santa Cruz March 31 / April 1 ~~ San Francisco April 1 – 12
Recently I applied for admission into a PhD program in New England. Because of the madness in my personal life I applied to only one, the one I wanted to get into. I went to visit, spoke with professors, found a couple of them who said I could work for them, and made my application … Continue reading The Ess, My Trip to New England, and Another Shit Year in Sandy Eggo.
I generally think that coming out is a bad idea. Anytime you have to articulate your identity you are giving credence to the ideology of heteronormative behavior. When was the last time someone came out to you as straight? Coming out presupposes a world of coerced conformity. A world where nuclear, heterosexual, two person, monogamous … Continue reading Coming Out
The forced heteronormative expectations that we see in society foments in sexual culture, or rather in the void that represents sexual culture to us in the states. We have a culture of silence, a culture that suggests that any sex is dangerous sex. This anti-sex doctrine is being beaten into our youth through abstinence education … Continue reading Sexual Anomie
I’m angry. I’m angry at a system that is designed to entrap it’s citizens, to coerce conformity, and to expect heteronormative behavior without questioning the underlying presuppositions of this one-sided way of life. Last week a young person came into my life needing help. I made phone calls to the father of this young person. … Continue reading Queer Advocates in Public Schools?
The night before thanksgiving I was settling down for a bottle of wine and 30 library books when the phone rang. It was a young relative in tears. Seems this person was chased out by zirs father in a tirade of bigoted, homophobic slander. I drove to the suburbs to rescue this teen, certain that … Continue reading Thanksgiving is when you find out what your family is made of